What if you could see how your thoughts can affect your life, and how much impact your words can have on those around you? It seems a bit too easy, but you’ll be surprised at how easily your thoughts can negatively affect those around you. Remember, we are all connected to each other from our own thoughts. We are all just two minds. It’s been proven for over a century that positive thoughts cause your emotions to change. We have now found out how to see a change in your thoughts, and how we can influence our emotions and behaviour through positive thinking. Your thoughts are your thoughts; you can change your thoughts, your emotions and your behaviour by simply changing your thoughts! But if the thoughts don’t seem to be changing, then are you being affected by your thoughts?
The Mind In Depression
When we feel down, or depressed, we do a lot of emotional draining activities to cope with it. However, as we go on with our lives, we often find ourselves in situations that seem completely out of place, and that can make us feel hopeless and isolated. They usually tend to build in a pattern of thinking that makes our life feel ‘empty’ while we’re still feeling a sense of frustration and despair. These are the brain’s coping mechanisms being activated.
Our brains are naturally wired for survival, and we are all pretty much programmed that we will ‘catch up’ with what’s gone before us. But when our brains start to feel depressed, as you can see in the image below, our brains start to start questioning if this is the case.
This is evidence that our mind has taken control of our emotions, and that some of our negative feelings come from the mind itself. So how do you influence your emotions?
In order to have an impact on your mind, make some changes in your mind. Start by asking questions, using a technique such as this:
Think of something which makes you frustrated in your life. Maybe you feel that things are not going according to plan, or your life is not reaching its full potential. Maybe you feel that you’re never good enough, or aren’t being properly rewarded. You might even be frustrated that you cannot control yourself, or that you aren’t progressing at a pace that matches how you’re performing in your life.
Then ask yourself this: How am I getting frustrated? Or “Is this actually something I can change?”
Ask yourself the same questions that you wrote down, and note how your emotional state changes. This will help you identify if any of these feelings are actually related to the “myself” that you’ve been identifying. When you feel frustrated in your life, your emotion shifts from being “us” to “them”. This then makes a connection to how you are going about your business in your everyday life, how you are feeling about yourself and a feeling of desperation. As you start to see a connection between your “ self “ and your current life situation, it will start to take action to change that. So what do you think can make your mind happier and healthier?
There’s nothing that’s going to turn your stomach, or turn the “I am the cause” phrase on its head! By changing how you think, your emotions will change along with it. That’s exactly what I’m telling you, stop comparing yourself to others and trying to figure out how to do everything the way others do it! For those of you who get stuck on comparing yourself to other people or how you must be different than everyone else, I want to give you a little advice: Stop comparing yourself to the people you’re living with, because they’re different from you. There is no right way to be, there isn’t one. They’re as flawed, as flawed, as flawed as you are, and you are more free than they are. Think of yourself as you are. Now think of you as you want to be. In this way, you won’t be able to compare yourself to others, but instead, find ways to define your self in a way that lets you know that you don’t have to have a perfect life for the rest of your life.
I started this blog about a month ago. It’s a place where I share my thoughts, thoughts I try not to let myself get to. If you’re a student, if you live in a place remote, if your depression is affecting your schoolwork, if you’re busy and don’t get much downtime with your friends, you’ll find me on my blog. My name is Amy; I’m a PhD student in Cognitive Processing at university, and I’m currently a Ph.D. candidate at Imperial College London. Here at my blog, I share my thoughts and feelings - my anger, my love, my frustrations. A lot like my depression, my