It’s one of the many perks of playing “Dirty Dancing” in your own home with your friends.
This is for all the kids who think they need to be rich to have good things and the same for parents who are broke to let their kids get away with things. It’s our responsibility to take care of our kids and to stop sending them off to college with $100 million dollars in their pocket and not let them make the mistake that I made.
This is for mothers who are trying to build real families and live in their own home but cannot afford an entire house, much less a child’s education or other needs. I am so sorry for you. I pray that everyone who reads this will realize that raising a child is hard. It looks easy when you have a happy house (I know mine did), a nice car, a beautiful home theater and a nice house. But it isn’t always so easy. It is difficult to raise a child who has a parent who is not able to work (and it shouldn’t be hard to work to save for college), and to have a parent who might have a terminal illness and then has to raise two kids who are young enough but do not have full access to medical intervention or the ability to learn English. It is difficult to raise a child who is the only child in their family of four in a single-income household and have to do their own childcare and housekeeping. It is so important that we all are aware of the importance of taking care of our kids and that we don’t need things we don’t have now to feel like things are OK.
This is for parents who are trying to do everything right but don’t feel they can meet their kids’ needs any more than they have already in life. This is also for young children who were raised as the government’s responsibility and expect no less because they are considered to be the next generation that we all have to do well for. This is for parents who have to work until they do to support everything without making it possible for each one of their kids to feel satisfied with the “good enough” status they are able to achieve.
This is for the parents who are trying to work tirelessly on this one thing (and who don’t feel all of the others), but find themselves getting exhausted and overwhelmed trying to keep up with the ever-changing demands of the lives that are now outside their home. This is also for anyone who wants to have a child today knowing the stress, worry and struggle that this will cause in their future. This is for parents who are struggling for the very same things (for their jobs, for health, for their future, for their mental health, for their finances) for which they hoped that they could have something good to be proud about but were never ever offered. This is for the parents who have had to pull back and let the baby be so important to their lives before they even thought about making choices that would make them happy. This is also for the parents who would have never thought of giving them up if they could have lived with it and have given up when they finally made a choice that made them feel good.
This is for this new generation who need this new family and who look around them to see other families of their parents’ generation who have kids with autism and who have no idea. The baby is there, and the parents are still trying to hold on to their own. However today these people, whose very being and dreams revolve around babies, just want a place on earth that does have baby-care options. Baby-care options that they are also going to need for their own kids if their kids become autistic. And this is why the parents’ struggle is so real and why we need to accept this now, and give our kids the support and the care they so obviously need.
This is for parents who have been so deeply invested in their own, that it looks a miracle when they want to give up on these kids. But then when you see how many of their kids are perfectly healthy and happy and doing perfectly wonderful things to their own bodies, you begin to realize what true “breakthrough” this baby has been for them. It looks even more miraculous now that it has come out of a situation just like this. And you feel the love that your own child has for you to realize what a miracle it is.
This is for parents who are just trying to be the best friends you can be, but have experienced the reality that some of their friends are being extremely horrible to their children. And then you see what the difference is between “that person” and “the mother of the baby you love” and realize that it is the best friend they can be and